"It is a waste of time for us as parents to think about strategies for parenting our teens without first examining ourselves."
"It is a waste of time for us as parents to think about strategies for parenting our teens without first examining ourselves." This is a quote from a book titled Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens by Paul David Tripp. I highly recommend this book to you as parents of teenagers or almost teenagers. Tripp's intent with the book is to present parents with a vision for looking at these important years as a plethora of opportunities rather than adopting the "cultural cynicism" of many parents who have teenagers. It is a book that seeks to apply the gospel to this season of parenting.
I do not know about you, but my parenting sometimes involves me looking at what is wrong with my kids. I think it is imperative to first look within ourselves in order to get a better understanding of any stumbling blocks or idols we have that are preventing us from living out the gospel in our lives, and more specifically, in our parenting. Another way of thinking about this is to stop and ask yourself: What is controlling my heart? Where are my affections? What do I spend the most time thinking about and doing? We must answer these questions on a heart level if we are to truly see these years as opportunistic instead of just survival.
I encourage all of us not to waste our parenting through a lack of commitment to self-evaluation. May we be a generation of parents that truly applies the gospel to ourselves and to all aspects of our lives, especially as we seek to shepherd the hearts of our children. One of the unique distinctives of our ECS community is that we are truly on mission to disciple our children. We need each other to stay on course for ideas, encouragement, and centering. Happy Easter!